Part of the growing phase in life is being capable of making an honest assessment of yourself, regardless if you’re a male or female. This is what helps develop your maturity level. Keep in mind that thoughts such as: “I’m a loser. I don’t measure up to other people,” are 100% destructive thoughts and will lead you to be a pessimistic person.
Yes, it takes time and practice. However, until you can do this, you will not be a very effective communicator, significant other, friend, or leader. Start with little things that will build winning streaks: “I am strong enough. My story matters. I’m not there yet, but I’m working on it.”
Arrogant individuals will not understand this methodology because their confirmation bias will continue to tell them: “I’m already great at everything,” and “I don’t need to work on anything because I am the standard.” This is destructive too, no matter what they believe.
At the end of the day you just have to make the decision to be a better version of yourself. People are counting on you to do what’s necessary.