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Your values | Are they aligned with your love for your wife?

If your values do not align with how much you love your wife/significant other, the path will be difficult for you.

What do I mean by that? If you honestly believe that you are above any task:

  • washing clothes
  • doing the dishes
  • purchasing personal items at the store
  • etc.

Specifically, based on the fact that you’re a male, it is pretty clear that your values don’t align with what you consider love. They’re out of balance. “But that’s not how I was raised,” doesn’t compensate. Make the change.

The fact is, your wife/significant other, aka the person that you love, is more important than any of these tasks. Stop trying to conform to what society keeps telling you and align your values with your capacity to love.

I’m certainly not an expert on relationships but I am confident on my ability to balance my values with love. My marriage is worth it and your relationships are worth it, too. It’s not a man thing, it’s a love thing.

Love is the Answer

The best way to overcome hate, is love.

The best way to overcome social injustice, is love.

The best way to disrupt the downward spiral that continues to manifest itself on social media, is love.

“You cannot hate other people without hating yourself.” – Oprah Winfrey

Love does not care about race, color, religious beliefs, sexual orientation, or which political platform that you support.

We are all the same.

Love is blind.

Love is the answer.

Love will eventually conquer us all.

Happy Monday (On-Day)

Happy Monday (On-Day)! Sure, we all love the classic movie Office Space because of the great one-liners throughout the movie. Especially, this one:

“Looks like someone’s got the case of the Monday’s.”

Although this scene is very funny, it is actually a reality most people are living. The very thought of starting a new week has the ability to completely undermine their motivation, plans, desires, and overall capacity to get anything done at work/school/etc. Does this sound like someone you know? I am willing to bet you know at least 4-5 people that are falling into this trap.

I used the word trap for a reason. Because the fact is, success, goals, your back account, and life in general don’t care that its Monday. The things you truly value in your life have no knowledge of what day it is or the particular time you’re concerned about.

“Ugh, it is 5:45 am and to make things worse–today is Monday! Is this really worth doing today or should I wait until Tuesday? I’m sure these opportunities will still be here tomorrow.” – you talking yourself out of being productive.

So yes, the day of the week can be a trap because your mind is hung up on a name of a day and not what’s actually important. When you have goals and priorities, the day of the week should be irrelevant. You must learn to train yourself: While other people are complaining about the day because they don’t want to give up what they did over the weekend, you are focusing on dominating it!

When your focus is calibrated, you don’t allocate any of your time on complaining about things that don’t produce results.

What is the daily, weekly, or monthly goal?

If you want to dominate your Monday, you need to be aware of what your goals (targets) are and how you plan to achieve them. If you don’t have a target, I promise you, you will miss it every time.

“How can a man hit a target he cannot see? That’s a pretty good question; here’s another one. How can you hit a target, you do not have?” – Zig Ziglar

Knowing what your target (goals) actually are will help you implement a plan that will make your Monday (and every other day) successful. This is a big reason why I personally love Monday’s because I know that it sets the foundation for my entire week. When you are committed to making the best of your Monday’s, you’re already ahead of 50% of the people you work with or even attend a class with. Is it a competition? Yes – with yourself.

Your only competition that actually matters.

But how do I remember what my goals are when I’m always going 90 mph, all day? Here is a simple solution: write them down. (Here is an example)

  1. 0500 – Wake up
  2. 0615 – Workout
  3. 0730 – Breakfast
  4. 0900 – Work day begins
  5. 11:30 – Lunch
  6. 1:00 – Miscellaneous meeting
  7. 2:30 – Make miscellaneous call
  8. 5:30 – Drive home
  9. 6:30 – Eat dinner
  10. 7:00-9:00 – Family time
  11. 9:00 – Read**
  12. 10:00 – Write**
  13. 12:00 – Go to bed

It may seem silly to plan out your entire day in an example format like this but it identifies the key events (targets/goals) throughout your entire day. It shifts your focus to what really matters.

What’s really important?

The Challenge: Embrace Monday. It is the perfect opportunity for you to take control of the week from the very start (business/work day). Will it be difficult? Yes, at first. Will each Monday produce different obstacles? Always. It doesn’t matter though. When you train yourself to focus on what really matters, the day of the week no longer matters.

“Rise and Grind!” – Eric Thomas

I Am

Constructive Thinking:

  1. I am strong.
  2. I am worth it.
  3. I am a valuable piece of the puzzle.

Destructive Thinking:

  1. I am weak.
  2. I am not worth the effort.
  3. I am just a man/woman, what value can I offer? 

What you tell yourself is what you will eventually become. Fuel your mind with positivity no matter the size of the storm that you’re currently battling. I am (You are) are worth it!

Constructive Thinking vs Destructive Thinking

New Year, New You

There are 364 other days out of the year for you to start a new chapter in your life. (1 January 2018) Meaning, you don’t need to make a New Year’s resolution if you are truly serious about:

  • Doing something new and/or courageous.
  • Committing to some self-reflection exercises.
  • Dedicating more time to your family and significant other.
  • Being the person that you were born to be and not what people think you should be.
  • Implementing a training regiment that offers no room for you to quit because your health and future are worth it. 
  • Making the decision to be happy about every new day because life doesn’t happen to you, it happens for you. 
Change starts with you.

Forget about the overplayed clichΓ©s about the 1st of the year; take action today! Stop wasting valuable time. Your life has more value than you realize.

Marry the Truth

Stop living your life based on what you think people are saying about you. Stop allowing your thoughts to manifest things that are not even there. 

We are the only species that can think about something and actually get mad, sad, and even depressed just because of those particular thoughts. Your mind constantly requires an answer for everything that you see, do, and feel. What you don’t realize is, you can learn to control that. Did he actually say that your new hair cut looks bad or do you think that he said that?
Stop worrying about what you think and start focusing on what you know. 

Information changes the situation. Marry the truth, aka supporting data. Divorce the story that your mind manufactured, aka not reality. 

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