If your values do not align with how much you love your wife/significant other, the path will be difficult for you.
What do I mean by that? If you honestly believe that you are above any task:
- washing clothes
- doing the dishes
- purchasing personal items at the store
Specifically, based on the fact that you’re a male, it is pretty clear that your values don’t align with what you consider love. They’re out of balance. “But that’s not how I was raised,” doesn’t compensate. Make the change.
The fact is, your wife/significant other, aka the person that you love, is more important than any of these tasks. Stop trying to conform to what society keeps telling you and align your values with your capacity to love.
I’m certainly not an expert on relationships but I am confident on my ability to balance my values with love. My marriage is worth it and your relationships are worth it, too. It’s not a man thing, it’s a love thing.