I want you to ask yourself this important question: Are you the CEO of your life or are you an Employee?
Beingthe CEO of your life means that you take charge of your responsibilities and your circumstances. You don’t sit around and wait for things to happen. Instead, you take initiative and you make them happen. This also means that when you make a mistake, you own it. You don’t blame other people.
Too many people like to blame other people for their circumstances. Do you realize what happens when you blame someone else for your circumstances?
You put all of the responsibility on them to implement change.
Meaning, if they don’t want to change something, you will stay stagnant. Now you are an Employee of your life because you’re waiting on other people to help you move forward.
The CEO method:
Am I in charge of my life?
Do I do things that I want to do while ignoring the people that are saying, “that’s not possible?”
Do I own up to my mistakes?
Do I embrace change?
Do I move with time or do I sit around and tell stories about the past?
Am I creating winning habits?
Do I have a vision?
The Employee method:
They’re holding me back.
They don’t trust me.
I was going to graduate this summer but my professor gave me a bad grade.
Bad things always happen to me.
Change is not possible.
Change is only achievable if you have money.
Winning is not possible.
Why should I dream when I’m not in charge?
Life is just too hard.
“You’re a loser,” is all I keep hearing from people.
I’ll get to it tomorrow.
I’m too busy for that.
I’ve tried everything and nothing works.
That is why I strongly recommend that you take ownership of all of your mistakes and circumstances. Even if you’re 100% positive that you did nothing wrong, just own it.
Example: Your house was robbed last night. “Well, it looks like I need to develop a better plan on how to keep my house and property safe.”
Taking ownership will result in the following things:
Change will begin
A clear objective will be identified
You will have complete control of the situation
All distractions will be eliminated
People that operate as the CEO of their life do it by setting goals. Setting goals allows you to identify a start point and an end point. How can you move forward if you don’t even know where to begin?
I’ll be honest with you, if you don’t have any goals, I’ll be more than happy to have you come work for me so that I can achieve mine. This might sound condescending to most people but the fact is – that’s how life works. The people that don’t have goals end up working for people that do. It is impossible for you to be in charge of your life without goals.
So once again: Are you are the CEO of your life or are you an Employee?
When I was a kid, there was a stone quarry where everyone would go to swim. Well, actually, it was so they could jump off of a specific cliff into the water. Yes, it was illegal to be there, but that certainly didn’t stop anyone from sneaking in.
People always talked about how awesome and scary it was to jump off of the East wall due to its height (roughly 60-70′). When I first stepped to the edge, I felt sick to my stomach as I looked down at the water. I tried to jump but I couldn’t do it. So sadly, I went home and felt ashamed because I allowed fear to win the day.
A few days later I decided to go back. When I stepped to the edge, that same feeling returned. Only this time -I paused- and I told myself, I can do this! Then I counted outloud, 1, 2, 3…and I jumped. As I’m falling toward the water I remember thinking, What have I done? I’m either going to get hurt or I’m going to die.
Then – BAM,I hit the water feet first. As I came back up to the surface I started celebrating. It wasn’t scary or difficult at all. In fact, it was awesome! So I climbed back up to the top and I jumped again. Then I jumped at least five more times. I went back to that place several times over the course of the summer and I kept jumping.
After jumping at least 25 times, I finally had a moment of clarity. People weren’t afraid of the actual wall, the height of the wall, the impact of the water, or even the thought of being caught by law enforcement. They were afraid to jump.
Gravity knows exactly what it needs to do and it will always do its job. But in this scenario, if I didn’t jump, it wouldn’t have an opportunity to do its job. So I jumped.
Fast forward to 2017. I finished writing my second book and I was excited about the next steps. I searched for a publisher for about two weeks and I finally found one. As I stared at the “submit your manuscript” feature on their website, I suddenly felt overwhelmed with fear.
What if they don’t accept my manuscript? What if they don’t like my genre? What if I’m not good enough?
Then just like when I was younger -I paused- What are you doing? Just submit the manuscript and trust yourself! And then I jumped. Eventually, they approved my manuscript and I signed a contract with them. All because I jumped.
Here’s the challenge: when you’re scared and don’t know what to do, jump. When you see an opportunity but you’re afraid of what to do next, jump. Because if you don’t jump, just like me when I was younger, you will allow fear to win the day over and over until you’re sick and tired of standing at that edge. So please, just jump. You were made for greatness but that greatness can’t be achieved until you learn to jump.
”I am the only problem that I will ever have and I am also the solution.”
I want you to think about that. This affirmation is about taking ownership and reminding yourself that how you respond to circumstances is either part of the problem or part of the solution. We can’t control all of the events in our life. But we can control how we respond.
It doesn’t matter how much money you make, how many friends you have, or how much material possessions that you accumulate throughout your life because once you’re gone – it all goes back in the box. Therefore, success is not about what you have, it’s about what you do with what you have. We’re all created from the same thing; some people just have the ability to see the bigger picture.
Just because you have the title of: male, man, or guy, it does not give you the right to talk down to others; especially women!
It doesn’t matter how much money you make in comparison to them.
It doesn’t matter what type of occupation you hold.
It doesn’t matter how you were raised.
Those examples are just excuses! When a man yells, insults, and talks down to a woman, all they do is demonstrate their insecurities. (The same goes for when they do this to other men, too.) Trust me, when a man acts this way, other men and women recognize it even if that particular man believes that his actions are justifiable.
It’s time that we show women (and men) respect because that’s someone’s daughter, sister, mother, and friend and they wouldn’t like it if the shoe were on the other foot.
Are you having a hard time finding someone that shows interests in your personality and characteristics? Have you ever considered being/acting like the person that you always wanted to meet?
Self Reflection is an essential tool that we all must utilize from time to time with a respectable amount of honesty. Never forget that arrogance is a fools perspective of a falsified reality that nobody wants to compete with regardless of the physical attraction. You cannot love yourself more than a significant other and expect the relationship to work. You need to accept your deficiencies and demonstrate your greatest qualities through honesty, personal courage, integrity, and compassion. If you can do this while exercising patience and consistent action, I promise you that your future will be bright and someone will love you for who you are and not what you are.
Thinking Traps undermine mental toughness, performance and lead to an inaccurate understanding of a situation. Never let your mind play the “what if” game or make unnecessary assumptions.
Unlike certain situations in life, you are always in control of your thoughts. If you think positive, you’ll act in a positive manner. Who is going to follow or listen to someone that always jumps to conclusions and only see’s the negative perspective of every situation? The answer is absolutely no one. Use your cognitive thinking in a manner that benefits you, not in a manner that keeps you stagnant. Never forget that YOU are in control and your potential is limitless.
The reason you’re not at your goal right now is because you’re too busy worrying about what other people are doing, what they’ve accomplished, and where they’re going in life. In the meantime, you are wasting valuable time that you could be allocating towards yourself.
What you don’t realize is that these people that you’re focused on are no different than you. They still require food, water, adequate sleep, they experience emotions, they have the capacity to love as well as the capacity to dislike others; they are exactly like you. The only difference, they’re not worried about you.
Your success will be determined by your focus. Are you ready to reach your destiny?