Many men use power against women to compensate for perceived threats to their status as the man in the family. Abuse of power comes from the entitlement and privilege men feel in relation to women. The vast majority of physical and sexual abuse is perpetrated by men while verbal and emotional abuse can go in both directions.
A typical male abuser:
Has feelings of inadequacy.
Believes strongly that there is a “right” way for men and women to act.
Is unable to express feelings verbally.
Feels his happiness and support are dependent on his partner.
Fears rejection and abandonment.
Is jealous or is overly possessive.
Is moody, depressed and/or angry most of the time.
Feels that personal wants, needs and desires come first.
Witnessed abuse between parents or was a victim of parental abuse.
Are you having a hard time finding someone that shows interests in your personality and characteristics? Have you ever considered being/acting like the person that you always wanted to meet?
Self Reflection is an essential tool that we all must utilize from time to time with a respectable amount of honesty. Never forget that arrogance is a fools perspective of a falsified reality that nobody wants to compete with regardless of the physical attraction. You cannot love yourself more than a significant other and expect the relationship to work. You need to accept your deficiencies and demonstrate your greatest qualities through honesty, personal courage, integrity, and compassion. If you can do this while exercising patience and consistent action, I promise you that your future will be bright and someone will love you for who you are and not what you are.
Thinking Traps undermine mental toughness, performance and lead to an inaccurate understanding of a situation. Never let your mind play the “what if” game or make unnecessary assumptions.
Unlike certain situations in life, you are always in control of your thoughts. If you think positive, you’ll act in a positive manner. Who is going to follow or listen to someone that always jumps to conclusions and only see’s the negative perspective of every situation? The answer is absolutely no one. Use your cognitive thinking in a manner that benefits you, not in a manner that keeps you stagnant. Never forget that YOU are in control and your potential is limitless.
With today’s social media platforms and technology it is very hard to keep up with everything. Companies are constantly competing with each other to make a more efficient way to communicate. But here’s the important question, what are we really communicating? What is the message that we are trying to deliver? Do you feel as a parent that you have a pretty good understanding of how your children are communicating? As a parent, why do you believe that this is important?
Sure, I probably have a bias opinion since I’m a SARC / Victim Advocate – but more importantly, I’m a parent and I care about the welfare of others. Some of my children are teenagers, which equals the target audience of these apps. Even though I am pretty comfortable knowing that they understand the danger and seriousness of social media, I cannot account for those that are sending them messages and information. Situational awareness is the key.
The reason you’re not at your goal right now is because you’re too busy worrying about what other people are doing, what they’ve accomplished, and where they’re going in life. In the meantime, you are wasting valuable time that you could be allocating towards yourself.
What you don’t realize is that these people that you’re focused on are no different than you. They still require food, water, adequate sleep, they experience emotions, they have the capacity to love as well as the capacity to dislike others; they are exactly like you. The only difference, they’re not worried about you.
Your success will be determined by your focus. Are you ready to reach your destiny?
Even if you are a very optimistic person and are capable of adapting to your forever changing environment, you will probably never be great at everything that you do. But there is one thing that is for certain, and that is, you already possess everything that you need to be the best version of yourself. The difficult part is discovering it.