Face-to-face conversations are the most effective way to communicate and create growth. Text messaging and emailing are a way to communicate but not the most effective, because there’s no connection.
For example: If I told you, “Hey Michelle, that shirt looks very good on you,” would telling you via a text be as impactful as telling you face-to-face?
The answer is no because anyone can text that. Texting and emailing require noemotions and usually do not generate connection. All you have to do is just type and press send.
If you want to become a better communicator, have a face-to-face conversation, whenever it is possible. By doing so, it conveys: What you have to say, is important to me.
Having face-to-face conversations, also develop your communication skills, outside of your personal relationships. Just because we have multiple platforms such as: Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, and Instagram, doesn’t mean we have to use them for every aspect of communication. “Sure I have time, Bob, pull up a chair and let’s talk,” demonstrates authenticity.
The hypothesis: To reach your goal, you must do the following things:
stay committed in the presence of adversity
adapt to your environment
exercise patience and consisted action
The reality: People quit due to the following reasons:
they experience short-term adversity
other people disapprove or question their goal or vision
they get distracted by their television or a social event
they focus on the amount of days required and not the process itself
they fail to identify their WHY
they stop holding themselves accountable for their shortfalls
they use the excuse, “This doesn’t work!”
How do they know if the hypothesis is true or false, if they’re not doing all the steps that are required? Even if takes 15 minutes, 1 year, or 20 years, it is still part of the process. People often ask, “How did that person become an overnight success?” What they don’t realize is, that overnight success actually took 20 years. Meaning, there’s not set timeline regardless of what it looks like from the outside.
“People are rewarded in public for what they’ve practiced for years, in private.” – Tony Robbins
Therefore, the hypothesis doesn’t need to be updated, your habits and train of thought, do.
Not everything that you see other people do will align with your values and that’s perfectly okay. Let people be who they want to be and let them enjoy things.
When I was a kid, I didn’t quite understand this because I was usually on the receiving end of derogatory comments. So when I got older – I naturally thought this type of behaviour was acceptable. I was wrong.
I now understand that what we say about other people tells a bigger story about us. Pointing out character flaws, clothes that we don’t like, make-up that we don’t like, hairstyles that we don’t like, and relationships that we don’t like (or approve), will not make you a better person.
To believe that other people should conform to the things that you like is a sign of arrogance even if it’s not intended. I personally want to apologize to anyone that I have hurt or disappointed over the course of my life. I take full responsibility of my actions and I am committed to cultivating change.
In conclusion, if you want to point out flaws, focus on your perception and thought patterns.
Life is about taking risks, right? Then why do so many people constantly worry about the repercussions of taking them?
Risk-averse: Also known as notliving your life. If you don’t take risks and avoid operating in conditions that present unfamiliar opportunities, you will not be successful in reaching your goals.
What are you avoiding by not taking risks?
Your comfort zone is not where the magic resides, so it’s time to leave it.
When I was a kid, I struggled with this because it was always easier to do what was comfortable. Adversity kept me from experiencing opportunities that will never present themselves, again. Now I use this mistake as a teaching tool. Meaning, I embrace my mistakes. Learning to embrace your mistakes will fuel your confidence to take calculated risks.
Once you’re able to take that important step, you will have more time to focus on what matters:
Telling the world what you’re interested in doing is not a bad thing. In fact, it demonstrates that you have a vision. However, until you put those words into action, they simply remain words.
If you speak highly about a person that you care about, show them.
If you talk about being good at something, demonstrate it.
I just don’t tell my beautiful wife that I love her, I show herby doing things that demonstrates my love. In order to have a successful marriage, I have to do things that align with my (our) vision. This has secondary and tertiary effects: happiness and romance.
Words are very powerful; however, it’s the action that carries those words from point A to point B. Taking action is a way to demonstrate authenticity. Would you invest in a product if it could not do what the advertisement claimed? Probably not.
Do something great today by showing the world or someone you care about, that you are more than just your words.
Valentine’s Day is an interesting holiday because depending on who you ask, not everyone embraces it. Some people get overly excited, while others dread it due to the lack of romance in their life.
When people feel uncomfortable about an event or holiday, such as this one, they allow negative thoughts and emotions to take control of their day. They begin to question their self-worth and that is truly a tragedy. I am here to tell you that, regardless if you are:
Going through a difficult time
Feeling overwhelmed with adversity
YOU matter. Your story is important and you are a vital piece of the puzzle.